Rainbow Child Care Center

Rainbow Child Care Center

Rainbow Child Care Center opened its first school in 1986 in Hillsborough, New Jersey. Today there are more than 121 Rainbow Child Care Centers found in 15 states.

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The Montessori Preschool

The Montessori Preschool

The Montessori Preschool opened its doors in 2012, and continues to grow every year. If there is interest in your area, please let us know!

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Rainbow Referral

Rainbow Referral

Do you know a family in need of a Home Away From Home? Share the Rainbow Difference with the Rainbow Referral program and receive one free week of tuition!

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Breathe In, Breathe Out

For the most part, we as adults know how to handle our emotions when they arise.

We all have our days when we need to have our music loud, get in an intense workout, chat with our friends or co-workers or even just walk away. Over time, we have learned how to self-regulate as well as de-escalate ourselves in situations that may arise causing us to feel overwhelmed.

Children, however, may not have yet developed the skill set needed to self-regulate. They may act out in many ways because they do not understand how to express how they are feeling. This is the time the situation may escalate and tantrums arise.

When children are trying to express their feelingsit may also be done in a physical way more than we would like. We often hear people say, “Stop crying, you are OK!” or “You need to stop right now!” – when really it is alright for the child to cry and be upset.

As parents, we must remember to validate our children’s feelings and talk to them in a respectful manner. Explain to your child that there may be times when they are mad, sad, frustrated, angry, happy or excited and that is all part of being who they are. What we need to do as parents is teach them ways to express their emotions that are acceptable and to help them self-regulate.

Here are a few tips to help de-escalate unwanted behavior:

  • Create a safe setting!
  • Validate the child’s feelings, “WOW I can see that you are very mad!”
  • Limit the number of adults involved, it is important not to have an audience!
  • Provide adequate personal space for the child
  • Show open and accepting body language
  • Be sure that the verbal interactions you are having are respectful to your child
  • Remind the child they are not in trouble, we are just trying to keep them safe and to help them through the situation
  • Speak to the child and ask a simple question of “What do you need to help you calm down?” “What can I get for you that may help you calm down?”

By using these techniques, we not only are able to de-escalate the immediate situation, but also provide tools for children to learn and utilize when expressing themselves in the future.